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Sunday, December 25, 2022

8 QUALITIES OF A GOOD MOTHER





8 QUALITIES OF A GOOD MOTHER

Two questions we need to tackle now. Just read down to know how to be a good mother forever.

Who is a good mother?

What are the qualities of a good mother?


According to Mrs. Okezie Calista who has been a teacher for more than  fifteen years now on a seminar presentation with  Uturu Heroes and Heroines platform described motherhood as the heart of the family.


As the heart gives blood to the parts of the body so the mother gives light to the family. A caring mother is as the same thing as a good mother. A mother manages her home in such a way that people will not notice what going on in the family whether smooth or tough.

A good mother prays for the whole family as St. Monica did for her son St. Augustine.


The 8 qualities of a good mother  says it all. Below are the powerful good qualities of mothers;


1. A good mother is loving and caring at all cost. Mothers should love and care for everyone in the family without discriminating who run the highest errands in the house.


2. A good mother is encouraging. Mothers should be encouraging and motivating to their sons and daughters in living a good life through displaying good characters towards their fellow human being.


3. A good mother is peaceful all the time. Mothers should be insightful when it comes to promoting peaceful co-existence in the environment and household not supporting wars among family members.


4. A good mother is neither a gossiper nor a talkative. Mothers should not be seen nor involves themselves gossiping about their families misconduct outside home, rather they should live for corrections and directions instead of talking rubbish.


5. A good mother is not jealous. Mothers are met to be appreciative and welcoming to everybody. Advancing and appreciating other people's wellbeing in a given soceity.


6. A good mother is helpful in the family. Mothers should help their husbands, children and others around the environment.


7. A good mother is trustworthy. Mothers should build a trust and worthy characters before their children, so that they could be a living examples in the family.


8. A good mother should be neat in all round living non behind because a dirty wife makes the man looks outside for other women.


In other way round, fathers too are not left out from the above mentioned qualities. A good father should not let the family lack anything materially and otherwise. The otherwise is the love of the man which suppose to be invested wholely in the family.

 



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Saturday, May 21, 2022

TEN HINDRANCES OF VISION AND ITS' SOLUTIONS

 

TEN HINDRANCES OF VISION AND ITS' SOLUTIONS


There are many factors that can possibly hinder a leaders' visions

These factors could be inform of distractions to the mind from unexpected areas. Like; watching videos  that are not relevant to your insightful mind, associating with the wrong peers or group of people, reading unmotivated books and not been able to follow personal decisions to the end and so on. Upon that, there are other factors that can quench a visionary leader from manifesting. 

Vision is a pursued insight from within.  Moreover, anything that can make one not to reach out expectations is a hindrance.




One person create the road for others to or travel

There are many factors that can possibly hinder a leaders' visions. These factors could be inform of distractions to the mind from unexpected areas. Like; watching videos  that are not relevant for the insight, associating with the wrong peers or group of people, reading unmotivated books and not been able to follow personal decisions to the end and so on. Upon that, there are other factors that can quench a vision from manifesting. Vision is a pursued insight from within.  Moreover, anything that can make one not to reach out expectations is a hindrance.

 

There are ten factors that tends to stop visionary leaders visions from developing which are: 


1. Unseriousness

People who fail to accomplish their goals in life are due to lack of believe in their chosen career. 

2. Associating with the Unlike Minds

This is the giant killer of leaders’ visions in life. The association should be with the people who share the same view in life. 


3. Self Doubt and Fear

Doubt and fear are the causes of all failures in life. Self doubt can be overcome with self-discipline. Both can be conquered by having a strong sense of your destiny in life.  


4. Lack of Trials

Without any doubt, lack of trial destroys one’s purpose and visions in life. It could be defeated by reading self motivating books periodically. 


5. Family Background

The weapon to fight this problem is by associating with like minds. Because it is your brothers and sisters that would first discourage you.


6. Educational System

The kind of education one receives while growing up. This can be challenged through expansion of one’s knowledge. 


7. Attire or Presentation

This is silent destroyer. The unaware of this factor has caused many failures. It can be gained through building a high strong self image. 


8. Social Media

Here is a place you see people destroying others goals consciously or unconsciously. The remedy is to be present in mind and in the moment and remember to ask the question, “How is this discussion helping me in building and achieving my purpose in life?


9. Looking For Help

Many people will fail to go on in life because there is no help in their chosen career. The only help you need to succeed is to learn what is necessary for you to learn. 


10. Environmental Influence

Environment is another battle field that destroys a person’s vision. It can be overlooked by focusing only on the task at hand. Note, whether you are in the rural or urban area, what you do at present, should distort your dreams. 


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Obienyi C. Batholomew  is an author, motivational speaker and a free thinker.  He believed so much in enlightenment and entertainment. He likes music and gym exercises. He grew up in a very poor family lifestyle and background. His father died when he was 3years. His mother could not pay for the school fees again in class three and that led him to made a decision to follow his gifts which he discovered in his JSS2 class as a small still voice. He found out that people like motivation but many do not want to be the motivators themselves. He made a decision to be a different person - he choose to be a motivator. 










 

 

 

 

Monday, April 25, 2022

Hon.Henry Ogbulogo 9 Powers Of Developing Talents


HON. HENRY OGBULOGO 9 POWERS OF DEVELOPING TALENTS & CHARACTERS


We have set out for community development through our insightful developed speakers who support enlightenment and entertainment works via seminars and open programs presentations. Most of our events will be talking about societal set backs or influences over personal or group growth. 

To help us reach out is to support the good work of good people in such a rural undeveloped areas dwelled by good people. 






The Nine powerful statements I grabbed as Hon. Henry Ogbulogo was delivery his speech at Akpukpa Youth Conference Seminar as of 14th of April, 2022.


These are the 9 powers below:


1.    “I KNOW THERE ARE MANY SOCIETAL SETBACKS BUT BEFORE WE FINISH GOD MUST BLESS SOMEBODY.”

Before he starts speaking, he played the song titled - God Can Bless Anybody” Mr. 2Kay ft. Idahams  and asked everybody to come and dance with him. If such a great man can ask you to come and dance with him, would you waste time? The answer is no. So as many that wished went out and dances with him.


2.    THERE’S NO SOCIETAL SETBACKS THAT ONE CANNOT OVERCOME THROUGH; RIGHT ATTITUDES, RIGHT THINKING AND GOD GRACE.”

The great man knows that society has many setbacks but he is aware also that none is too big not to be overcome. He said, if only you can face societal setbacks with right attitudes - attitudes are characters or behaviors. What are your behaviors towards your challenges in the society you are in if you think you have one? He’s saying, with right approach you can overcome it. He also made mention of right thinking. What are you thinking about your societal setbacks if you think you have one? It would be your own thoughts that set you back; it could also be your inability to set things right as they should be or it could be your lexical attitude of working with others. 

Today, you have known that right thinking can be the solution. So, think right. He finally said if you believe in your God He will surely show you grace. The grace of God is like when God touches you one of his hand. If God should touch you one hand, do you think you can finish eating that one hand grace from Him? Pray to God to show you His grace that what the speaker wants you to do and as you pray, no level of societal setbacks can near your door of success nor block your road of progress.

 

3.    “I HAVE SEEN GOOD TALENTS HERE BUT I DON’T KNOW WHETHER YOU HAVE GOOD CHARACTERS, RIGHT ATTITUDES AND TELLING WHAT YOU ARE NOT?”

Looking at the question, yes he has seen good talents. But he doesn’t know whether they have what it takes to be up there. He doesn’t know whether they have the right attitudes concerning their talents. Many people today have great talents but fail to have the right characters to reach out to people.

They fail to communicate well. They fail to know how to make their talents their vision because if they do, they would hire somebody to write down their vision plan or do it themselves. They fail to know what is associated with the talents they think is their gift from God.

Many good talented artistes fail to have managers, they fail to have organized written down of their songs with its lyrics, rhymes, choruses and verses. They fail to promote themselves socially especially on social medias, they fail to know how to build fans base and hook up with some fans who may be their really main sources of income.

Though it could be because they are not sure of whom they are. This is what the speaker has said earlier- telling what you are not. How can one succeed in wearing wrong personality with the wrong knowledge and wrong perception of reality? The best thing is to know who you are within truly. 

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4.    “YOU MUST HAVE COURAGE TO TELL THE TRUTH.”

Here he’s saying, for you to say you have talent, you should think very well on that thing you called your talent. What conviction do you have? What shows you that it is your talent? What proof do you have? What is your level of education about your talent? Are you ready to follow it up to the dark side of it? Or are you just deceiving yourself working and wasting your time coping and imitating great men footsteps?

God cannot do for you what you can do for yourself. When it comes to talent, you must tell yourself the truth. Every talent changes its face of earning money from time to time in this our fast developing technological world system. Are you aware the new way of making money with the gift? Are you prepared for future occurrences of unseen events?

 

5.    “YOU MUST BE A FIGHTER - DON’T GIVE UP.”

Every great man is a fighter. I have come to understand that who could you mention today as a great man without seeing beside him, his fighting sword? “Winners are fighters and they never give up”- Obienyi C. Batholomew men who do not allow what are in them to die must work to give it life so that what is in them will not die. This great speaker knew within him what he has been passing through.

To be a hero you better learn how to reshape, rebuild and restructure your body and spirit so that you can fight with muscles. Wrestlers know the important of body weight and it’s a long time endurance to make an impact to the body.

 

6.    “IT IS YOUR ABILITY NOT YOUR QUALIFICATION.”


He told us a story about one of the African foremost Banker; his name is Toney Elumelu Chairman of UBA & Hair Holdings. 

As a young man, all State Trust Bank advertised for an entry level with a minimum of 2:1, Toney Elumelu knew he was not qualified because he did not make second class upper, Mr. Elumelu resilience moved to write a letter to the MD/CEO of All State Trust Bank describe his ability beyond his certificate, he was invited and today he is the chairman of one of the biggest bank in Africa after managing Standard Trust Bank and UBA. 

Truly, it is your ability not your certificate. Your ability is your talent. Your qualification is not your talent. Your ability is who you are. Your ability is what you can do with everything you have.  Think right, if you want to develop your talent. 

7.    “IF YOU CANNOT READ, YOU WATCH. YOU MUST WATCH OTHERS AND COLLOBRATE.”

There are many ways to succeed that the meaning. If you cannot read as an excuse then watch others and as you are watching what others who are in the same field with you are doing hence comes your deliverer - you join them - that collaboration. Success is always certain.

 

8.    “APART FROM YOUR GOOD CHARACTERS - YOU MUST NOT BE AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES.”

The speaker encourages us not to be afraid of our mistakes. He said, you must make mistakes but don't give up. It is true that you may have good characters, know how to work with others, but be sure of mistakes one day. Upon the mistakes no matter how big, don’t give up. Remember, winners are fighters and failures are nothing but pillars of success. 

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9.    “LADIES AND GENTLEMEN, DO YOU HAVE A WRITTEN VISION FOR YOURSELF - DON’T SAY YOU ARE IN A VILLAGE?”

In his final points, he asked us a question which no one was able to answer. This is very crucial. Greater men write their visions down and go on to pursue the accomplishment. Small men believe if God remember me, what is written down vision plans for? How can God remember you when you are not orderly organized within yourself? Yes He does undo, He is not man but be sure He loves nice abilities and good visions. WRITE YOUR VISION PLAN AND HOW TO ACCOMPLISH IT. 

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“Character is the result of two things: Mental attitude and the way we spend our time.” – Elbert Hubbard



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Saturday, April 23, 2022

Rev. Dr. Okey Onyemaechi 9 Powers Of Leadership Spirit





9 POWERS OF LEADERSHIP SPIRIT

We have set out for community development through our insightful developed speakers who support enlightenment and entertainment works via seminars and open programs presentations. Most of our events will be talking about societal set backs or influences over personal or group growth. 

To help us reach out is to support the good work of good people in such a rural undeveloped areas dwelled by good people. 


9 POWERS OF  LEADERSHIP SPIRIT

BY REV. DR. OKECHUKWU ONYEMAECHI

The Nine powerful statements I grabbed as Rev. Dr. Okey Onyemaechi was delivery his speech at Akpukpa Youths Conference Seminar as of 14th of April, 2022.

These are what he said:


1.         “YOU CANNOT GROW MORE THAN YOUR PLACE.”

As he walked inside the hall, he saw how little children are all over the hall with few adults.  These children are not up to 18 years of age. The few adults he saw were ready to learn from him.

Observing this, he said, well you cannot grow more than your place. He knew that bye and bye, his place is his home. He cannot because of his high profile or personality differences or money and reject his people’s call to learn from his knowledge. His actions and words changed something in me.


2.         “AM A CYCLOPEDIA THE MORE YOU WANT TO KNOW ME THE DEEPER I BECOME.”


He said this because he has seen the community, the people and their old ways of reasoning. He decided to live like them not because he is of the same level of thinking but because he wants to make an impact. As he said, if you try to show me over sense, I will tell you that am more than what you think of me.


3. “YOU MUST HAVE THIS  CONTROLLING YOUR TEMPERAMENT.”

Here, he’s telling the leaders of our communities. If you must be effective leader, you must learn how to control your temperament. He knows how important it is to have an organized life style and packages as a leader. He knew that leaders of today allow themselves up to be beaten by societal influences of people who are not leaders. He knew that leaders are selected people who are always looked upon by their followers. He knew that leaders are the first citizens of any community and state. He understands the challenges leaders face.

That’s why he gave out the most secret- knowing how to control your temperament. The word ‘temperament’ has been missing in people’s lives especially leaders. Many don’t know what temperament is all about talk more of knowing how to control it. If there’s one lesson a person should learn before going into leadership I think its temperament.


4.       “A LEADER MUST BE READY TO FIGHT OPPOSITION.”

This is what most leaders and ordinary people don’t know. As a leader, you must in actions show annoying reactions to those who want you to fail. To those who want to make you a fool before your followers. He said, you must be ready to fight them. It’s simply means leaders should physically build their muscles to become giants and be somehow fearful may looking at them. He is saying leaders should study spiritual books or verses of the bible that empowers them mentally so that they can fight those with bending spiritual insight. Or maybe, leaders should strive to be more enlighten to rise above their oppositions.

 

5.  “A LEADER IS A PERSON WHO IS CONCERNED WITH THE PEOPLE HE’S LEADING.”

Revered Pastor Okey Onyemaechi knew that leaders are entitled or entrusted with few or many groups of people in a country or growing communities whose followers are looking up to their leaders for guidance and corrections.

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He believed that leaders are not just only the people who are selected to lead others but leaders are people whether called upon or not who volunteered to be concerned with the people they are leading. The speaker may not have viewed it this way but in my mental eye seeing – it does mean another thing. For me, Onyemaechi’s speech expands my insight of seeing from different viewpoints. You must be concerned with the people’s feelings if you think you are their leader. True leaders must be concerned with the societal challenges of their people.

 

5.      “IF YOU ARE A LEADER AND YOU THINK THE PROBLEM OF THE PEOPLE DOESN’T CONCERN YOU, ONE DAY IT WILL CONCERN YOU.”

He used road as an instance, if you are watching your people suffering from bad roads and you feel like it doesn’t concern you because home is not your base, you only come down home when you know surely its good and dry. One day, it could be death or wedding of your dear ones only then because of your friends would be a touch on your checks. Frankly speaking, leaders should try their best to show concern with their people’s problems.

 

7.   “THE RIGHT PEOPLE AT THE RIGHT TIME - THAT WHAT LEADERSHIP IS ALL ABOUT.”

He says this because he discovered that some leaders don’t care to cooperate with the right people that would make things happen. He suggests that leaders should look for the right people who would give them what they want. What could stop the vision of the leader not to manifest? This is a real fact, finding right people who can give you what you want at the right time.

 

8.    “THERE ARE PEOPLE YOU MUST TRUST. THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO WILL MENTOR YOU OTHERWISE YOU WILL NOT SUCCEED AS A LEADER”.

He said, even as am speaking with you now – I have many mentors who I go to and they will sit me down and discuss things out. As visionary leaders, do you have wise men as your mentors? He knew too well that leaders of today may have mentors but hardly will they listen to the directions of their mentors rather they go ahead in doing their heart desires. Or maybe, they chose the wrong type to mentor them. Leaders should share their visions with their mentors and listen for directions.


9. “IF YOU DON’T HAVE A MENTOR, THE PERSON IS BASTARD.”

Indirectly he has called all the leaders who don’t have mentors bastard. He is suggesting that every leader should have another eye that sees from different directions and different perspective of things. He is also suggesting that as a leader if you choose unenlightened men as mentors you too is a bastard.

His last point I think is annoying because from the phase of his speech, it means anybody on the face of the universe who don’t have a mentor is bastard. You are not truly what others say you are. You are who you chose to be. You are a unique born hero.

 

“If I have seen further than others, it is by standing upon the shoulders of giants.” Isaac Newton

 

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Tuesday, April 19, 2022

YOU ARE THE DISCIPLE OF YOUR OWN TALENT














AM THE DISCIPLE OF MY OWN TALENT

If biography is about who you are then this is not my biography rather an experience on how  I discovered my talent during my hard times in my earlier life. 

This talent of a thing is in everyone. Some are blessed as multitalented while others are given only one talent. The most important for every person is to try look within or inside himself in order to reap the seed of his purpose while on earth. The more you water the seed, the more fruitful it becomes. You are responsible for your life. 


I AM THE DISCIPLE OF MY OWN TALENT

I am Batholomew Obienyi. I was born in the great union of Ihejiako and Bridget Obienyi in the village named Agbama Amaidi Achara Uturu Abia State Nigeria.

I was 3 years plus when my father died. And I could remember our enjoyments and sufferings.

My family background was very poor. And we lived in two room’s house built with mod blocks with licking roofs more than 22 years.

I went to government primary school in my basics and came out with almost empty brain. But then, I can reason.

I was witnessing all events only in my memory and unable to share with anybody. I could recall choosing a secondary school to attend for myself because I was trying to make a choice. But my mother over shadowed me and redirected my choice with forces of angry words.

Then she decided for me. And I went to commercial secondary school. Since then, my mother has not decided for me again in my life.

All the subjects in my first term result were marked with red pen. This only indicated that I was a failure. And I was proud showing it to people and they were celebrating it only Emefu Chukwuebuka who explains it for me. He told me that I failed. This annoyed me. And I was saying this in my heart, why did those I showed it to the first place didn’t tell me? I understand that it takes courage to look at somebody no matter the age in the face and tell him, he is a failure. Only those who want you to improve can do that.

 

I would have been a failure in life if not…

 

I took charge of my life in my junior class 2 because my mother who is my only near helper wants to start training my younger sister Chinyere with her money earned from farming in people’s farm lands.

I battled in the field of learning with my teachers who used batting and sticks on me in teaching me how to think for myself. My classmates like Maureen Nwankwo and Peace Echendu whose companions I enjoyed in teaching me how to pronounce and spell and read as well.

If you cannot think for yourself – you cannot discover your faults.

See, if you cannot discover your fault that means you cannot grow, nor change your current erroneous state. There are no other way of growing accept by thinking on how to discover yourself. Discovery yourself means thinking for yourself and knowing the next necessary directions or actions to take in order to improve your life.

It is now that I discovered my errors then.  The errors were there because no one motivated me from the first place. I was doing everything for myself – not my cause but the environment I was passing through contributed.

In real sense, I need not blame anybody including environments.

I make another choice that my mother is not aware. What was the choice? I promised myself within that I would serve that purpose of motivation for others which I have lacked from the beginning of my life.

Our high intelligent principal Chief I.C. Azumara showed it through his examples of works but we could not recognize it. It was motivation that my classmates were offering to me but then I did comprehend it. Now I took it to heart.

Have you lived with an insightful widow before?

Gradually, I turned to a learning reader with the help of my class mates who laughs at me in my erroneous pronunciation of words and sentences. I discovered that it is in trying to learn that we truly know. After the process, I make a promise to myself to study more of my books in order to learn more to achieve the goal I was sent to accomplish by my lovely mother who made the best choice for me.

I cannot tell how I came to value the word motivation.

Maybe it could be out of my numerous researches on how I could improve reading, writing and drawing skills with my nice friend Onyebuchi Nwankwo who is also inquisitive in learning new things.

In our secondary school days, our seniors don’t come for us for motivations. It affected many poor students like us as some people later dropped out of school.

The struggling continues after secondary school.

But it was in secondary that I started writing poems like; The Immortal Moon, The Crying Birds and others that I did not value much. I was 19 years when I finished my secondary.

 

I finished but life has not finished with me. I set out the next year for other motivations about growth.

 

Buddha words read:  

“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.” - Buddha

I love speaking publically especially to secondary school students and village rutted individuals whose mindset has been reshaped by poverty and environment.

I love discovery and sharing of ideas with people. Am trying my best to be friendly but not working according to what people are telling me on how to live my life unless those I think upon.  I decided to choose my life. And I did follow my bliss.

 

I choose to write, motivate and think.

I then became a Writer, Motivational Speaker and a Free Thinker

I believe so much in enlightenment works and I like music and gym exercises.

I found out that people need motivations but many do not want to be the motivators themselves.

I promised myself to be different among others - I choose to be a motivator. I discuss ideas not qualifications. 

I have written so far three books now such as: Our Little World, Deep Down I Came Up and A Witch Encounter which they came as inspirations and life experiences.

I was surviving without fear but faith in my Creator. I acknowledged my challenges because they are there in front of me.

Nature has lots of good things for us if only we could bend down to master ourselves and do what we love no matter who kicked it off. Find out what is your purpose on earth. Listen to that inner voice that always wants to direct you.

 

There in the holy bible was written; "Seek you shall find. Knock the door shall be open. Ask and it shall be given. Believe and you shall receive" - Said Jesus Christ.

We are in a wide world and dynamic world with technologies influences.

I strongly believe that one who follows the Light shall not be afraid of the Dark. One who endures conquers. He who waits has everything.

I have set out to know more, do more, achieve more than the whole world is expecting of me. This could not be accomplished by mere sayings and day dreaming about it rather, with dedicated actions and faith in my gifts to help the people of the universe in my own level of inspiration and awareness. 

Make a decision today to live fully on your earthly purpose. 

 

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