THE THREE GREATEST HINDRANCES OF HUMAN DEVELOPMENT

THE THREE GREATEST HINDRANCES OF HUMAN DEVELOPMENT

The three greatest hindrances of human kind development have eaten deep in the lives of many youths around the world today. They are the reasons many people refused to venture into their real life callings. 

To overcome these greatest damaging fears in our heart of hearts, one needs self encouragement, self motivation, be insightful in nature and accept Self-Containment as God has commanded. Knowing these hindrances is the only way we can tackle shame, mistakes and fear. 

These are the three hindrances:

MISTAKES, FEAR AND SHAME  are the greatest hindrances of human kind. It is only the timid in heart these three things would affect greatly.

Be courageous!

Fear leads to mistakes and mistakes leads to shame and shame leads to failures. Your inability to act or move forward because of your errors is the beginning of all doubt. Forget your shame and mistakes and run to your success. No pain no gain is an old adage that's work best here. 

This word mistake, can be seen as an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgments caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, insufficient knowledge or misconception of an idea.

In spite of your fears to act, to try new things out, to invade your world and to explore the unknown, it is better to act in boldness and kindness and fail than never to make a move.

Focusing on fear of what you will face, what people will say, or how poor you would have belittled yourself at the moment will cause more harm than you may imagine.  It is easy and better to move on, to keep trying, to work and to learn from past failures of others.

Fear is what lead men to be greedy and greedy leads to war as war put the world into unending conflicts and tumors. 

Fear comes in many phase: it could be because of lack of education, self confidence, belief system, cultural and individual differences, racism, and other unmentioned hatred among people. 

No matter what form it may appear, always cloth your face with boldness because it covers a lots of faults. Enoch Tan the creator of MindReality said in one of his article that there’s magic in boldness. Why fear?

On the other hand, mistakes are temporary occurrences that do not happen all the time. Mistake is not always but it occurs sometimes in one’s daily activities.

Those who fear mistakes are of the little minds and spirits and lack self courage and determination to move forward in life and its' challenges. Any action done by mistake is met to be repeated in mind. Your mistakes today is your success tomorrow. Infact, make mistakes. The more mistakes, the more knowledge.

When you made a mistake in any of your daily activities, don’t dwell or focus on the mistakes so long because it has been committed there’s no need to cry over split milk. 

Be bold. Encourage yourself and move on. Besides, nobody is above mistake even if there’s, do not look away your eyes on growth and focus attention on development. 

We all are working towards perfection not that we are perfect. You should know that we are not perfect, always whisper it to your heart silently.

One step to take to avoid mistakes is to move slowly in your consciousness before speaking out or doing anything worthwhile at the moment. Sometimes we need to slow down. Mistake is good to our growth. Not too much of it. There are some deathly mistakes that need to be avoided in time.

Even too much mistakes without giving up attitude leads to greater success. It teaches us how to stop criticism from others because none is faultless. Frequently occurrences of mistakes cause fear and leads to failure.

But to learn how to swim, we must first of all sink with the waters. We must feed ourselves with the ability to wait. Commit thousands of mistakes in uncommon places with uncommon people but let it be in boldness and you will discover that they will still appreciate you. But you must strive to grow to help yourself.

Lastly, shame is the root cause of mistakes and fear. Try to over come shame in order to fly with your invisible wings.   

Shame is an unpleasant self-conscious and emotion often associated with negative self-evaluation; motivation to quit; and feelings of pain, exposure, distrust, powerlessness, and worthlessness. Shame - wikipedia 

Forget the accusing fingers. You are good. Go on the way you are good. You are beautiful and you are also a hero. 

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Batholomew Obienyi

A Creative Writer and Motivational Speaker

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THE SECRET TRUTH ON MENTORSHIP

THE SECRET TRUTH ON MENTORSHIP

An Online Live Interview With a special person named, Mute Efe a coach, writter and motivational speaker.

Once in a life time in any interesting want to grow individual will need a guide by a higher intelligent personality of the kind of person he or she wants to become. 

To grow larger in life it's good one start from low to high but not necessarily compulsory with any person. 

There was a time in my journey to the next ladder when it seems the road is dark, not clear or confusing per say, so I seek higher knowledge and more wisdom from the source I prefer.

So I paid Mute on Facebook chart to lick secrets on mentoring for that was what I needed that time to grow. Below are powerful charts between me and Mute who is a personal leadership coach as I wanted to be.

A PERSONAL INTERVIEW I CARRIED OUT WITH MUTE EFE

Mute Efe is a Personal Leadership Coach, Social Media Entrepreneur, Blogger and an Author. An Electrical Engineer by training and a Certified Safety Professional.

He is also certified in Basic and Advanced Leadership.

He is committed to teaching people how to lead themselves.

His online School for Personal Leadership, a class that holds on Facebook,

has trained participants from across the globe on life transforming principles. His very simple way of writing connects him with the hearts of people.

 Mute Efe is the author of The Beautiful

Life: Classic Notes on Personal Leadership.

You can connect with Mute on any of the following:

Facebook: www.facebook.com/mutehimself

Twitter: @Mute_Efe.

Email: mute.efe@gmail.com.

Hear the interview now:

Me:

Does a mentor need to charge money before mentoring?

Mute Efe:

It depends.

If it is one on one mentoring, No.

Me:

Explain please.

How does one choose a life mentor not yearly?

Mute Efe:

But if it is a mentoring program where there are many people being mentored by one person he can charge a fee. Just like coaching.

If you find someone who represents everything you aspire for you can make him a life mentor.

Me:

Is it necessary for one to have a permanent mentor to succeed in life?

Can a mentor be selective or choose his/her mentee?

Mute Efe:

Yes

Me:

Do you still at your age now have a mentor?

Mute Efe:

Yes.

Even Oyedepo has a mentor.

Me:

Can one have many mentors?

Mute Efe:

You can have several mentors in different areas

Me:

Should one choose a person he is above in age as a mentor?

Mute Efe:

It's possible. It is called reverse mentoring.

Me:

What is the demerit of mentoring?

Mute Efe:

Sometimes conflicts can arise.

And if the mentor is not really mature he can become hostile when the mentee starts making fast progress.

Me:

Can one's wife or husband serve as ones' mentor?

Mute Efe:

Many ladies have married their mentors

But it is common with men. Most men choose men as mentors. But ladies also choose men, too.

Me:

Can it serve as a life mentoring after marriage?

Can one's mentor intentionally mislead his mentee?

Mute Efe:

Yes.

Me:

If it happens, how could one possibly find out in time?

Mute Efe:

A wife can regard her husband as her mentor for life.

I have never heard of such but it is possible. However, there must have been an issue in the relationship and the mentee would have known that all is no longer well.

Me:

If a mentee has a multiple vital purpose in life, should he/her listen or follow the mentor's advice?

Me:

If I ask you now to be my mentor and it happened that you said yes. What would you expect to be your reward - my success in life or in monitory aspect?

Mute Efe:

If the mentee does not want to follow the mentor's advice he should not have chosen him.

For your second question, I am not accepting mentees right now.

Me:

Thank you for your time. Please answer the last question. Thank you once more.

Mute Efe:

I will have to find out if I am the right mentor for you.

For example, a musician cannot come and ask me to be his mentor. I will decline.

Me:

What reward mentors accept from their mentees' mostly?

Mute Efe:

Even though mentors may not demand any reward, it is expected that a mentee should appreciate his mentor.

The mentee should use his discretion to determine the form of appreciation.

Me:

Thank you very much.

Should one seek to be someone's mentor?

Mute Efe:

No.

But one can start a mentoring program and let people decide whether they want him to be their mentor.

I have one mentor that I pay to be in his program. I have another one that I don't pay.

Me:

Is it advisable to be a musician and as well be a public motivational speaker?

What secret should I know about mentoring?

Mute Efe:

A public speaker can be in any profession. Once you are successful people will want you to come speak to them

Chinedu, we have exceeded your time.

Me:

Yes. Thank you. I learn.

Mute Efe:

The secret about mentoring is that everybody needs a mentor in one area or another.

Mentorship is the influence, guidance, or direction given by a mentor. A mentor is someone who teaches or gives help and advice to a less experienced and often younger person. In an organizational setting, a mentor influences the personal and professional growth of a mentee. Wikipedia

A mentor is a person who has more knowledge than you do. A mentor gives you direction and mostly motivate you when the bridge seem tiny to cross to the next phase of life.

Published by:

Batholomew Obienyi

A Creative Writer and Motivational Speaker

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